Grief & Loss

Trapped. You can’t escape.

Since the day they died, everything has stopped.

You haven’t been able to feel any closure – or really anything at all –

Except, of course, devastatingly sad, loudly alone, and occasionally numb.

And the sage advice? Not helping.

Everything you hear and read is some version of “Grief is a process.”

But what if you’re lost in that process?

What if the process turns out to be endless?

How does anyone just “move on”?

Something’s not right – you’re barely functioning.

It’s too much.

Sure, you put on that mask around others, but as soon as you’re by yourself, it comes off and that good ol’ darkness floods in.

“Welcome back to me, Giant Hole that Feeds on my Pain! Want a drink?”

No matter what you tell yourself or try to do, it’s the first thing to greet you when you wake up and the last thing to say goodnight before you go to sleep.

Even with the TV on in the background.

It’s relentless. It’s merciless. It’s maddening.

You’re so frustrated you could scream until your ears bleed, but you can’t really do that out loud because think of what everyone would think…

So, you just do it inside. Not indoors. In silence. Nobody can really see or hear.

But it’s just as stupidly exhausting as if you were literally screaming!

It shouldn’t be like this.

Advice is nice. Self-care sounds uplifting. Support groups ease the pain like an Advil eases the pain of a gunshot wound.

But what’s the point of going through all of this if you always need to keep lifting yourself from the crumpled mess on the floor again and again forever??

What happens if you’re not making it? Are you supposed to just keep faking it? Indefinitely??

There has to be a way to move forward. There has to be a way to do more than just scrape by. There has to be a way to move past pain into wisdom, or something like that, right?

If talking to someone were going to help, it would’ve helped already.

What else is there?

No more just talking about it. No more just learning coping skills. No more just identifying with the pain of others.

The power for healing, clarity, and freedom from this pain lives within you.

Working together, we can unlock that door, but only with the right keys.

We can convert your pain into strength – the loneliness and frustration into deep awareness of who you really are.

We can lift the fog.

And when we do that, we find clarity. And Peace. And a deep sense of connection to the ground of your being.

My work integrates the best elements of the most effective treatment approaches available today, including Internal Family Systems and Rapid Resolution Therapy.

I connect deeply and directly with the parts of you that have been trying so hard to protect and heal yourself and allow them to collaborate effectively.

The result is that you heal from the inside out – quickly, painlessly, and completely.

You don’t have to remain a prisoner forever.

You hold the key to your freedom.

Let’s connect for a free phone consultation to see what we can do together. (925) 264-9739